
It was hard to believe that this was a debut novel — it was so accomplished!
Set in an Indian enclave in a suburb of New Jersey, the cast of characters is almost entirely Indian immigrant families, with the parents born in India and the kids born in the US. There is, of course, the inevitable culture clash between the desi (Indian-born) parents and their ABCD (a slang term that stands for American-Born Confused Desi) kids, which the novel captures brilliantly, not only in rich detail but also with tongue-in-cheek humor that is spot-on. (I can personally attest to this as I am from the same demographic.)
For example, right towards the start of the novel, many of the women are complaining that “their ears still rang from how hard their children wailed for AC, a plea that the women denied them in the interest of saving on utility bills,” and how they were opening all their windows instead for their kids to deal with the summer heat. This is exactly what happens in most desi households – the AC is turned on only when the heat becomes unbearable and all other cooling methods have been exhausted. This is the first time I have come across such a seemingly trivial detail rendered so accurately and comically in a novel.
In addition to the authenticity with which so many of the typical desi family lifestyle details are captured, what makes Men Like Ours so unique is that the Indian immigrant experience, the community, and the generational culture clash is set against the backdrop of the mysterious death of one of the Indian men associated with the community. The dead man is Matthew Pillai, who did not live on Willow Road where all the other characters in the story live, but who had befriended each of the families in the neighborhood starting with the Sharmas, the family around whom the novel is centered. Matthew was a work colleague of Ashok Sharma, the husband, who invites Matthew home and introduces him to his wife, Anita, and his 12-year daughter, Leila. The Sharmas do not have a happy marriage, and Anita, in particular, is constantly resentful that she was fobbed off to a much older man who is neither smart nor good-looking nor successful. This makes her welcome the addition of Matthew as a family friend, as he is relatively wealthy as well as very generous, always bringing them things that they could not have afforded and going out of his way to help them with household chores and other things that need to be done.
While Matthew is married (to a white woman), he and his wife are not close, and they do not have any kids, which makes the Sharmas — and soon the other families in the neighborhood, whom he also starts to help out — feel bad for him and start treating him like a member of their household. Unknown to all of them, however, Matthew has a darker side which gradually emerges after Ashok unexpectedly dies of a heart attack. Matthew steps in to help Anita cope with the loss of her husband and the dramatic increase in her responsibilities, especially with regards to Leila. Matthew starts spending a lot of time with Leila, initially more as a father figure, but as she matures, his behavior becomes more predatory. He starts to molest Leila, but so subtly that her mother is completely unaware of what is going on. Leila, in turn, is aware of Matthew’s pedophilic behavior towards her, but she tolerates it because she can get him to spend money on whatever she wants, and also because it never gets to the stage of sexual assault. She is very sexually aware and has a boyfriend, so she knows exactly what Matthew is doing and has a line she does not allow him to cross.
Things comes to a head on Leila’s sixteenth birthday party, which is when she tells her mother, as well as all the other neighborhood Indian moms who have been invited to her house, about what Matthew has been doing. She also insinuates that Matthew may have been molesting another girl from the neighborhood, who was a few years older than her, who had been showing signs of depression recently, and who has now tragically gone missing and is feared dead. In the midst of these devastating disclosures from Leila, Matthew turns up to the party and tries to take Leila away with him, telling her that Anita is an unfit mother and that she would be better off living with him. (His wife has left him by this point.)
It is later that very evening that Matthew is found dead in his car, slumped against the steering wheel, off a side road. He had diabetes as well as heart disease, and the investigation into his death revealed that he had eaten a large quantity of sugary foods shortly before he died. But he did have his insulin tablets and syringes, which he seemed to have used. Why did the medications not work this time?
This is a question we don’t find the answer to until the end of the book.
Until then, the book goes back and forth between multiple timelines, starting from the present day when Matthew’s body is found, to many of the earlier timelines including Anita’s years as a young girl in India, her marriage to Ashok and her early years in the US, their move to the Willow Road community, their relationships with the other Indian families who live there, their meeting with Matthew and his gradual – and, as it turns out, insidious — integration into their lives and the lives of the others in the neighborhood. The book ends with bringing us back to the present timeline, a week after Matthew’s body has been found, and we come to know exactly what happened at Leila’s party and how Matthew died.
I have to say that despite detective stories and mysteries being my favorite genre, I had no clue whatsoever about the solution to this mystery. It was so cleverly done, and at the same time, completely believable. And to top it all, it even retained its desi flavor throughout!
I should also add that in addition to the murder mystery and the generational culture clash, the book revolves a lot around the Indian women of the neighborhood, their relationships with each other, as well as the family dynamics that are so specific to this immigrant community. In fact, it is the husbands of these women that the title of the book, “Men Like Ours,” refers to. The collective angst of these women — who were born and brought up in India and married off to these “settled men in the US” by their parents — is captured to a tee in the prologue of the book, which is so well-written that it could be an essay in its own right. I was dazzled by the quality of the writing in just these first two pages of the book, and it seemed a marvel that there was still the entire book of over 360 similarly well-crafted pages for me to read.
Men Like Ours
Author: Bindu Bansinath
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing
Publication Date: May 2026
Contributor: Lachmi Khemlani is a fan of the written word.













